Like after we got engaged, her mom gave her younger sister-who was already engaged for some months-her grandmother's engagement ring until her fiance could buy something better(than what I got my wife was what I read into it).
Or after they got married, but before our wedding, we were all going to California for her cousin's wedding. It somehow came up at dinner that they had just bought eight plane tickets(Father, mother, three sisters, brother, my wife and the brother-in-law). My darling just about lost it right there at the table because they were buying him a ticket and not one for me. Chosing my words carefully, I told her it wasn't a big deal since I had already budgeted tickets for the both of us, since she was my fiance and it was my job to support her.
Or the time that the aformentioned sister and fiance got married and he took an internship in Germany. The inlaws paid for the entire family to go visit except for my wife and I, since we had jobs. My truck got offered to help haul luggage to the airport. But their car broke down on the way, so SIX people crowded into my Tacoma extended cab and away they went.
Or when my wife's grandmother passed not long after we found out she was pregnant. At the time we were trying to pile up money and get out of debt in case of any unforseens(if you are a Ramsey person, you will understand) and flying to Utah for the funeral realy wasn't in the budget. But my best friend is an airline pilot and offered us buddy passes, I managed to make things work at work and I sold a gun I didn't shoot much to cover the expenses. After all that, my mother-in-law spent most of the time complaining that the rest of the family wasn't there. I get being distraught, but it was hardly unexpected and I had moved heaven and earth to get my wife and I there.
All that really doesn't bother me. What bothers me about all that is that it bothers my wife.
Then there was this weekend when her brother invited himself to a grill out I we were having with friends and proceded to pitch a multi-level marketing travel program to my friends.
But what really bothers me is that in the morning, my mother and father-in-law are taking MY TRUCK and driving it from Iowa to Arizona to get her share of the stuff from the estate of grandma. The truck that I worked long and hard to save for. The one that I spent hours researching. The one that gets washed every week and has rarely seen the tach above 2500. The nicest thing that I have ever owned, aside from our house. Was I even asked? No, that went through the wife. What will I be driving in my beloved truck's basence? An early 90's Saturn. The SAME CAR that died on the way to the airport. That is what I have to get to work for the next two days and all of Memorial Day weekend.
Now I will grant you that my mother-in-law watches our son on the weekdays. But all the other siblings have been assured that they will receive the same treatment and she offered, we never asked. However that isn't good enough for me. I bought them a new deep freeze when theirs was going south, we are paying for family pictures and about half a dozen other things because I don't like owing anyone anything.
Don't get me wrong, they are nice people, but I guess the way I was raised I just don't ask for or expect anyone else to take care of me now that I am an adult. I felt ashamed to accept buddy passes, I think I would pass out while attempting to ask someone to drive their truck half way accross the country and back.
Thanks for listening to me vent and PLEASE tell me if I am being a selfish douche. I was an only child for awhile, so it is a possibility.
Edited by rhgunguy, 24 May 2012 - 01:54 AM.